It is not uncommon for people overwhelmed with emotions to clash in front of everyone. Almost any person who does not own himself at a certain point in time may find himself in a similar situation. And it’s good if there is someone nearby who is able to extinguish the conflict, or quarreling people themselves find an opportunity to stop it.
Instruction manual
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If you are a direct participant in the conflict, you are overwhelmed with emotions, and you scream in response to angry abuse, find the strength in yourself to make at least a short pause. Just keep silent in response to another attack on your address. If you do not throw firewood in a fire, an unpleasant situation will exhaust itself.
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Try to get distracted by something else. Take a deep breath, then exhale slowly, practice such breathing for some time. Try slowly counting to yourself at least ten.
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Pretend that you don’t hear the person attacking you, find a reason to feel sorry for him. Visualize the following picture: here is your "enemy" lying on the bed, he is all pale, weak, he has a fever, and you stand above him - healthy and cheerful.
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Find the strength to say to angry curses erupted in your address: "God be with you (with you), " and do it calmly, without emotion. After this, it is better to turn around and leave, do not wait for the continuation of retaliatory insults. There is nothing shameful in not responding aggressively to aggression. On the contrary, you will only demonstrate your wisdom and maturity.
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When a person refuses to respond evil to evil, an important law of the universe comes into effect. Communication of people is not only verbal, but also on the energy level. When you get angry, they really direct a stream of negative energy in your direction. And here a lot depends on whether you accept it or remain indifferent to it. If you accept, immediately feel the anger in yourself. But if you can stay calm, negative energy, not finding the addressee, will return to its owner. An aggressive person in this case beats himself, which negatively affects both his health and the events taking place with him.
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The sages of the East say that inner silence can stop even the killer’s hand or the throw of a snake. But if a person only maintains the appearance of calmness, while in reality everything inside him is in full swing, the method will not work. Peace must be cultivated - just try to watch yourself in a difficult situation. This will give you the necessary pause, the opportunity to soberly assess the situation. Over time, you will notice that your peace of mind in itself makes your life much less conflicted.
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If you still can’t stay calm in a situation where you are being insulted, try using energy methods of protection. For example, visualize on your head a large cap or cylinder, an umbrella covering you from the enemy, a wall of water or fire separating you from him, or a mirror directed by the reflecting side of you. A good option is to visualize the protective mirror cocoon surrounding you.
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Do not forget that many conflicts can be easily repaid by simply finding the strength to smile or wrapping everything in jest. Defuse the situation with some question, even absurd in this situation. It is important to knock the conflict out of its channel: as soon as there is a hitch, the quarrel will be very easy to repay. Just do not feed it, act contrary to its logic, and the unpleasant situation will quickly come to naught.
