The very first reaction of any person to humiliation or insult is protection. How to learn to protect yourself in such situations?
In order to be able to correctly respond to insults you will need: restraint and reasonable action.
No matter where you come across insults, you can’t do without restrained behavior. People who do not know how to control themselves can attract additional negative emotions and only provoke more aggressive behavior of the offender. Therefore, you need to learn self-control, then when a difficult situation arises, it will be easier for you to restrain emotions. It is not surprising that most of the criminal cases are cases of quarrels on household grounds.
You were hurt, offended for no reason, did you feel that you were being treated unfairly? You suddenly possessed a great desire to take revenge on the offender? Stop! It is time to tell yourself that applying the same methods (insults and humiliations in return) will mean that you have shown weakness, succumbed to emotions, lost your self-esteem. You do not need to use the same methods of struggle, you should suppress your own surging emotions. The most correct option would be to tell the offender in response that you are not going to continue the conversation in that tone. If you leave and go about your personal affairs - step back.
If you were insulted in a supermarket, in public transport or elsewhere, you do not need to react sharply to insults, because, most likely, you will never see these tactless people again. Therefore, you should just get out of your head everything that they told you.
In the event that the offender is a person living near you, or working with you, it is not easy to quickly forget this situation. Especially if you have come across it more than once. It’s best to calmly consider and decide what to do in the future:
- to forgive the offender in order to establish further relations, provided that the situation has not changed your relationship with him,
- to forgive the offender, but keep away from him, change his attitude towards him.
The choice of your behavior will depend on the degree of closeness and level of relationship between the culprit of what happened and you.
You must always remember that all insults and humiliations are expressed to you only as an object of emotional discharge. Therefore, feeling guilty is not worth it.
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