It’s not a shame to ask for help. Superheroes, capable of "rolling mountains" alone, are very rare in life. Ordinary people have to turn for support to relatives, friends, colleagues, and sometimes completely unfamiliar passers-by. But you need to be able to ask. So that you are not denied, and so that you do not feel unskillful and a failure.
Instruction manual
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The way is honest. He is the simplest. Tell the person you are looking for help about the problem. People can’t read your thoughts, and therefore sometimes they don’t even know about your difficulties. Explain why you do not have the opportunity to cope on your own: not enough time, effort, patience, skill, money. Tell the potential assistant that you chose him because you trust. But do not force, do not push, do not demand an immediate positive answer. Having described the situation, give the person the opportunity to think and calmly make a decision.
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Exchange method. Acts on the principle of "you - to me, I - to you" in its good understanding. You ask for help now and offer your services in return later or in another matter. This method has long been mastered by young mothers, who take turns walking with each other's children. It is only important to observe the interests of both parties: the assistance provided should be tantamount to a return service. Do not abuse the exchange option so that friendships do not turn into commodity-money.
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The method is exciting and entertaining. It is great for people with common interests. For example, your friend, like you, is fond of cultivating garden strawberries. Then feel free to contact her for advice and a request to plant valuable plants in your country house. As a bonus to help you get a pleasant conversation.
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The method is instructive. You ask not only to help, but also to teach. This option is quite common. For example, you could not figure out the car engine yourself. And ask a friend-motorist to do it now for you and teach for the future. Most people willingly act as a mentor.
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The philosophical way. You will need extensive theoretical knowledge and an enviable eloquence. Convince a person that by supporting you in difficult times, he makes the world a better place. It sounds complicated, but this method is quite applicable in simple life situations. For example, your colleague is unlikely to resist such a logical chain: helping you to complete the project, he contributes to the development of the company, which is actively introducing environmentally friendly technologies in the food industry.
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The method is wrong. He is blackmail. By demanding help from a person in return for keeping his secret, you are most likely to achieve your goal. But you understand very well that this is unethical. It’s also dangerous. Your involuntary assistant will hold a grudge and will seek an opportunity to take revenge on you.
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Perhaps one of the following methods is suitable for you. Perhaps you will come up with your own. In any case, do not forget to sincerely thank your assistant.
