Condolences are responsiveness to the grief of another person, to the feelings and misfortunes of other people, which is expressed in words both verbally and in writing. Condolences can also be expressed in the form of actions. How to choose the right words, what behavior is acceptable, so as not to hurt, not offend, not cause even more feelings?
Instruction manual
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Do not be shy about your feelings. No need to try to restrain yourself in showing kindness to the unfortunate and in expressing comforting words to the victim. Remember that sympathy can be expressed not only in the words of compassion. If you do not find the right words, express your condolences by what your inner voice tells you.
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Touch the grieving person. You can also stroke and shake his hand, hug, kiss or even cry with a person who needs compassion. Express your grief and sympathy. Thus, condolences come who are not closely related to the family of the deceased, or had a little contact with him during his lifetime. They can shake hands with relatives of the deceased in the cemetery as a sign of condolences.
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For condolences, choose only sincere, comforting phrases and words. Reinforce these words by offering all possible assistance. By the way, this is according to Russian tradition. Compassionate people for the grief of others have always understood that their kind words without action can seem dead, just formal.
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Pray for the grieving and the departed. You can give notes in the church. You can provide help at home and in organizing a funeral, this is an offer of help with housework and organizing a funeral. You can offer financial assistance, as well as other types of assistance. Your assistance will be supported by words of condolences. This will make life easier for those suffering from grief. Feel free to show interest in the grieving person. Ask what can be done for a person suffering from grief. This will make your condolences sincere.
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Do not have grudges against the person to whom you will bring condolences. It is resentment and understatement that prevent kind and comforting words from being said. In prayer you must forgive everyone, then you can say good words without difficulty.
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With condolences, do not utter empty, banal, meaningless and tactless phrases. Do not say wishes that are directed to the future. It is impossible to mention and say that the death of a person could have been prevented in some way.
