The unspoken rules dictate that initiative in a relationship should come from a man. This applies to serious issues, such as marriage proposal, and more everyday, for example, an invitation to a cup of coffee. That's just now men are not proactive and often do not dare to take the first step.
Such situations are frequent when your friend to whom you sympathize does not take a single step towards rapprochement. In this case, you have to take the initiative into your own hands. The easiest way to find out your subject of interest is to invite him to a cup of coffee. But you need to do this as unobtrusively as possible, because you don’t know the reasons why he refuses you attention.
Coffee in gratitude
The most popular and effective method is to invite a friend to coffee in gratitude for any service. But this method is only suitable if you communicate regularly.
Think of a problem that only your friend can solve. Ask him to help you with work (if your object is a colleague), look at the lock on the front door or on the car (if you have one), rid your computer of viruses or install new software.
If your acquaintance has little initiative, then you will have to ask, because you can’t cope without help. Well, in gratitude, boldly (even persistently) invite him to a cup of coffee, albeit at the nearest cafe, and not to your home. What will happen next depends only on you and your enterprise.
Make-believe date
This method is very fond of scriptwriters and directors of romantic films. But in real life, he is quite capable of helping.
Ask your friend to go to a cafe with your classmates or business partners to play the role of your boyfriend. If there is a share of adventurism in his character, then he will certainly agree to help you. And, playing in the feelings, they are easy to transfer to reality.
Even if you have no appointments, you can always ask friends or relatives with whom your “object” is not familiar for help. And you can not ask anyone, but pretend that they called you and canceled the meeting, and since you are in a cafe, it’s a sin not to drink a cup of coffee.
