After the death of a person, there is a kind of obligatory rites several times a year (the first after death) to commemorate the deceased. Of course, the deceased should be remembered in the church as often as possible, not equating to any dates, because the main thing here is the prayer for the repose of the dead. However, often in the hustle and bustle of workdays a year after death, people simply go to the grave and forget to look into the church, and many simply don’t know when and how to remember the dead.
Instruction manual
1
Pray for the deceased in the morning on the day when it is six months from the date of death of a loved one. This should be done at home in front of the icon, a photograph of the deceased and a pre-lit candle. Drop by the church before going to the grave. This should be done before the start of the church service. Put a donation to the church and buy a candle (required).
2
Submit a note with the name of the deceased in the appropriate window of the temple, ordering a special ceremony. It is best if you order a commemoration at a proskomid. In this case, a small piece is taken from the special prosphora for the deceased and subsequently lowered into a special bowl with holy water as a sign of washing his sins.
3
Stand for the requiem in the church after the Liturgy, putting the purchased candle at rest. At the same time, it is believed that prayer will be much more effective for the deceased, if on the same day the commemoration himself takes communion.
4
Buy another candle when leaving the church in order to put it in the cemetery at the grave of the deceased.
Go to the cemetery immediately after serving in the church.
5
Light a lamp or just a candle bought in a church. Set a small table near the grave with food, so that, as they say, eat with the deceased. According to legend, it is believed that the spirit of the deceased is in the clouds and is nearby. You should also put a few pieces of food on the grave. At the same time, it is important to observe the posts, if there are such at the time of the remembrance.
6
Pray for the repose of the soul of the deceased near the grave. Gather everyone who visited the grave of the deceased and invite him home to the memorial table. Food on the table should only be allowed by the church at the time of the commemoration (fasting is fasting, and also depending on the day of the week on which the commemoration takes place).
7
It is necessary to make a lithium before the meal. A layman can do this by reading a prayer accordingly.
Serve first, before the people start a meal, kutia (porridge) made from wheat or rice with raisins and honey.
8
Proceed to the meal, each time remembering the good deeds and deeds of the deceased. This is where the name “Wake” came from - it means to remember.
Attention! Remembering the deceased, one should refrain from alcohol even if the deceased himself liked to drink.
