The confessor is a priest who will become for you in the church the accomplisher of the sacrament of repentance. In addition, the duties of the confessor include the development and education of his ward child. That is why the choice of his spiritual father must be approached with particular care.
Instruction manual
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The ministers of the church advise you not to look for your confessor, but simply to pray - the Lord himself will direct you to the clergyman who is necessary for you.
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However, relying on God alone is not worth it; you must also make certain efforts yourself in search of "your" confessor. To get started, go to the temple service. Take a closer look at the priests who lead the sermon. Pay attention to their manner of communication, to the strength of their energy influence, to the good that they radiate. You need to choose one near which you will feel comfortable and cozy.
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Be sure to try to get on an individual sacrament to the clergyman of your choice. For example, to confession. Here you can evaluate the degree of his participation in the parishioner, his interest in you, as in a child of God. Again, this is how you can understand whether you personally will be comfortable with this person as your spiritual father.
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When choosing a spiritual father, be guided by internal feelings. It is not necessary that the priest who canonically matches the image of the holy father - a long beard, the presence of a cross on his chest, and frequent flaunting with his special attitude to the church - will become the ideal spiritual father for you. An excellent confessor can be a simple modest clergyman who is not alien to ordinary normal words, does not boast of his "special" position and can give you simple, but at the same time very wise advice.
Useful advice
Feel free to carefully look at the priests in search of a suitable one for you. First of all, you should be comfortable with your spiritual father. Otherwise, you will not be able to take any of his advice. But this is precisely what is the key to a successful relationship between a parishioner and a priest.
