Divorce is a disastrous topic for young people, because currently it makes a decent percentage among them. Unfortunately, in most cases, nothing can stop a spouse from divorcing. Even wedding marriages and priestly marriages fall apart.
The reason for the divorce may be different. Sometimes it can be found even in childhood. An important role is played by the upbringing of the child, the composition of the family, etc. To have a happy marriage, you need a certain metaphysical "pillow", a solid foundation.
You can’t love people just like that, you must do it according to the commandments. The strength for this must be taken from God. The same applies to marriage. You can’t live together and hope for happiness, because we are beautiful, young, with children and be confident in the future.
What marriage is built on
Marriage is the most accurate image of Christ's relationship with the church. The union of man and woman is a sacrament. This is the only thing that remains of the lost paradise. Even children appeared after the fall. If we remove the mystery and the spiritual component from the marriage, then only carnal relationships and money will remain. All this refers to limited resources: the first - by age and health, the second - is limited by quantity. It is impossible to build a long and happy family life on these qualities. If you build family relationships only on lust, then the aversion to the object of passion can be so strong that it will be many times stronger than passion. If you hit the financial component, you can get carried away, turn into a miser, and at the same time hide behind your family.
In addition to earthly things, there must be a solid foundation, which is impossible to build without God. In the Catholic wedding ceremony, the couple swear an oath before the altar: "I take you as a wife and promise to be faithful to you in poverty and wealth, in old age and youth, in illness and health. Help me, God, in the Trinity, one and all saints. Amen.". The second half repeats the same thing. These words need to be spoken aloud for yourself and others in order to feel your responsibility. It is unfortunate that there is no such tradition in Orthodoxy. The absence of these fundamental things makes marriage a soap bubble that bursts with the appearance of everyday difficulties.
Marriage does not break up at once. There are many reasons why he can somehow somehow stay on pilaf. These are parents of spouses, their own children, property issues, etc. Divorced people often do not want to stay in this position and try to find their next happiness. As practice shows, re-marriages are more productive. However, one must not forget the words of God: "He who divorces his wife except the guilt of adultery gives him reason to commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery." And for this, sooner or later, it will be necessary to answer before God.
There are cases when divorce is not only inevitable, but also simply necessary. In the social concept of the Russian Orthodox Church, there is a rather extensive list of situations where divorce is possible and not a sin. For example, a spouse, having committed a crime, is sentenced to life imprisonment, and the wife has every right to demand a divorce. The cause may be sexual deviations (perversions) of one of the spouses or inability to bear children, discovered after marriage.
