A correctly said compliment is a gift for a person. With its help, you can emphasize its best sides, praise, and also express your gratitude. Giving compliments can be done in different ways, but some rules must be followed.
Instruction manual
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If you want to compliment a person, look him in the eye, don’t speak casually, focus on your words and speak specifically. Your interlocutor must understand what you want to tell him. Otherwise, your words will sound insincere, the person will not believe you, you will not get the desired result. For example, if you want to emphasize the external beauty of a person, do not limit yourself to words about attractiveness or beauty. Tell me what you associate them with, for example, with his clothes, hairstyle, makeup, etc.
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Make sure that your compliment is appropriate in a particular situation, it must be said at the right time and in the right place. If you give a compliment at the wrong time and not in a suitable environment, this can offend a person, at best he will not appreciate it. For example, if you want to praise him for his work that he did for other people, try to compliment him in their surroundings so that the person feels that his work is really appreciated.
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A common mistake is to insert a mention of oneself in a compliment. For example, "You are doing great, how you do it, I wouldn’t be able to." Mentioning yourself means that you are not focusing on a person’s abilities, but that you don’t own them. It betrays your self-centeredness and desire to highlight yourself.
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Compliment only those things that are directly related to the person and are under his control. It can be a person’s personal qualities, his achievements, abilities, etc. A compliment should show that you value any of its manifestations in a person. For example, if you like the way a person cares for his garden or home, say something about him (for example, that he is very patient, hardworking, etc.), and not about the results of his work.
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It is important to pay attention to whom you compliment. A person, for example, may be completely unfamiliar to you. In this case, you can focus on things that are obvious to you, for example, the appearance, any accessories, or the work that he does, interacting with you. If you are talking, for example, with your loved one, you can accompany your words with action, for example, hugging him, patting him on the shoulder, etc. In any case, do not expect anything in return from the interlocutor, for example, a return compliment. In addition, a person is not required to express any gratitude. If you are sincere in your words, the compliment you say should be pleasant to you yourself.
