Man began to bury and remember the deceased from ancient times. Remembering the dead is one of the basic needs of man, and the church rite carries with it a thousand-year human experience of remembrance.
You will need
- - funeral kutia;
- - candles;
- - the victim on the memorial table (food, wine).
Instruction manual
1
Pray for the deceased, go to church and put there on the eve (a quadrangular table with a marble or metal countertop, on which there are candle holders) a candle for repose, and you must offer the Lord a prayer for the one whom you want to remember.
2
Give alms to the poor to pray for the deceased. The more people pray for the deceased, the better. Prayers are especially important during commemoration days: the third, ninth and fortieth.
3
Go to the service and submit a note with the name of the deceased “about repose” so that the priest remembers him. It will also be appropriate on the fortieth day to make a sacrifice to the church. It can be not only money, but also food and wine.
4
Put the victim on the memorial table (it is located near the eve), for example kutya, bread, cereals, pancakes, fruits, cahors. Put in the note brought with the name of the deceased, so that they can be remembered separately. Remember that you should bring only the food that you can eat: for example, fasting can not be sacrificed during fasting.
Take a memorial kuti with you to church and consecrate it.
5
Book a memorial service for the deceased - this is very desirable. Also on the fortieth day is supposed to read a special funeral kathisma.
6
Organize a wake. On the fortieth day, not only loved ones are invited, but all the acquaintances, friends, and distant relatives of the deceased. The exception is the first, fourth and seventh week of Lent - these weeks are especially strict, and if the wake fell on them, the relatives and friends of the deceased do not invite anyone, but gather at a table in a very narrow circle: only mother and father, wife or spouse, children and grandchildren.
7
Put on the table the food that is permitted by the church canon: if the day is fast, then the memorial meal should be fast. There must be a consecrated funeral kutia. A large amount of alcohol is inappropriate: getting drunk on a wake is an insult to the deceased.
8
Put the device on the table in the name of the deceased, leave some of the dishes for it - this is an ancient tradition, it should be followed. Read “Our Father” immediately before eating, taste kutya in turn, starting with the people closest to the deceased — relatives and friends.
9
Remember the correct atmosphere of the commemoration: restraint, dignity, and a friendly attitude are appropriate. They gather for a memorial meal not for the sake of eating or looking at each other, but to remember the deceased.
