In modern days, the custom of mourning has ceased to be a strict and binding action after the death of a relative. The death of a dear person among believers is accompanied by Christian traditions - prayers for the soul of the deceased and the holding of memorial days. For atheists, sad events result in the psychological overcoming of feelings of grief and the desire to return to ordinary life as soon as possible.
Instruction manual
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In fact, mourning is a system of rules and prohibitions that family members and relatives of the deceased are required to observe. The duration of mourning can vary: 3 days, 9 days, 40 days, 6 months, a year, several years, and even life-long mourning. This period depends on the degree of proximity of the person to the deceased. The strictest and longest mourning is observed in relation to the husband or wife, children and parents.
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Funeral color is considered black. However, today the black color has already lost its sad purpose. Stylists have long introduced it into fashion due to the effect of visually slim. However, to emphasize in appearance any detail or wardrobe item in dark color the recent death of a loved one - it is very important to restore psychological balance. As a rule, women wear mourning hats or scarves and long dresses; men wear black shirts.
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According to popular tradition, up to 40 days the soul of the deceased is next to relatives and home. This understanding of death left its mark on the nature of mourning. Even if relatives did not experience great grief, they should lead a humble lifestyle, show sadness in everything, pray intensely, limit themselves in contact with other people, and avoid any manifestations of joy and happiness. In Russia it was forbidden to sing, eat sweet dishes, drink wine and go for walks.
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Fasting during the period of mourning is observed not only among Christians, but also in many other religions. In addition, at the memorial meal, as a rule, only simple, traditional food is allowed, including special memorial dishes: kissel, cabbage soup or ear, pancakes and kutya.
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After the death of a relative, true Orthodox believers and soul-mourning Orthodox Christians most of all should strive not for external observance of mourning customs, but for internal humility, being in fervent prayer for a dead person. If the repose of the soul. If the deceased was not baptized, only domestic prayer is permissible. In memory of the deceased one should do good deeds, give alms to all who ask.
