It is unlikely that it will be possible to find a person who would not have to face rudeness in life. Hearing unpleasant expressions or encountering inappropriate actions, many people get lost, do not know how to behave in such a situation.
Instruction manual
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Faced with a boor, people behave differently. Someone immediately tries to put the impudent in place, others pretend that nothing happened, others try to leave faster. In any case, this situation leaves a negative residue in the shower. Is it possible to make the meeting with an unpleasant person pass almost unnoticed?
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To get out lossless when confronted with a rude person, try to understand why you are so offended by his behavior. The problem is not what a particular person does, but in your perception of his actions. Remember - it often happens that the situation does not concern you directly, but at the same time you are trembling with indignation.
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Evaluate why you are so hurt by the actions of a misbehaving person. The key words here are "wrong lead." Each person has stereotypes that determine what is right and what is not, what is allowed and what is unacceptable. It is these stereotypes that determine the reactions to the behavior of another person. Get rid of stereotypes, and you will gain a wider view of the world, become calmer and more restrained. You will clearly see that much of what shocked you before does not really matter.
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How to get rid of stereotypes? For starters, forget the word "no." This does not mean permissiveness, it is only about removing existing barriers in your mind. You will be surprised to see how many around you are absolutely empty and useless prohibitions, only complicating life, driving it into a certain framework. Imagine that someone laughed out loud next to you, you immediately grimaced - you shouldn’t behave this way in the presence of people. This is an example of such a ban. Hearing a sincerely laughing person, you could also smile. The man laughs, he feels good. Just be happy for him and do not rush to condemn.
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Condemnation is another key word. Learn not to judge, and your life will become much simpler. Think about how often you make judgments and judgments — this one, that one. He did it wrong, then not that way
.Do not take on the role of a judge, especially considering the fact that nothing changes from this. Someone said something, you mentally called him a boor. But what has really changed from this? Absolutely nothing. Learn not to make judgments even in situations that have nothing to do with you, and you will see how much easier your life will become.
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The concept of pride is very closely related to the principle of non-conviction. Without pride, a person will never teach or blame anyone. Anyone who has managed, even in the main part, to get rid of pride, usually understands human psychology very well. Another person is like an open book for him; he sees all his “sores”. Moreover, seeing the mistakes of another person is not a condemnation. He sees them only because he struggled with them for a long time, they are familiar to him. Therefore, seeing the mental illness of another person, do not judge him, but sympathize. In a sick person, the disease speaks, it is his actions that dictate it. Understanding what is happening in the minds of the people around you, you just forget how to be offended.
