Unable to attend the funeral, a person can express his condolences in writing. It is important to select words of consolation very delicately so as not to hurt the mourner even more.
You will need
- - writing instruments;
- - the envelope.
Instruction manual
1
While expressing condolences in the letter, avoid standard faceless, stamped expressions. At such a moment, any falsehood is offensive in the twofold, both for grieving relatives, and for the memory of the deceased. If your speech is not characteristic of high-flown expression and pathos, do not write them in your letter.
2
To ensure that your written speech does not look dry and insensitive, use the plot narrative. This technique does not require high-profile epithets, vivid metaphors, but it looks very expressive due to the well-chosen development of actions. But keep in mind that it is always difficult for loved ones to come to terms with the loss of a loved one. Therefore, do not make the subject of your speech a harsh and gloomy present, but a bright and happy past, where the deceased is still alive. For example: "I remember the day I met your older brother. He immediately seemed to me to be a sincere and open person. And for the next ten years of our friendship, I admired his kindness, mercy and decency."
3
Next, describe a case from your shared past. Relatives may not know this story. And they will be doubly pleased to hear new flattering reviews about the person whom they loved, love and will always love.
4
If you know that one of the relatives cannot recover from the funeral, constantly cries, hint that the deceased is only worse off. But do not write it on your own behalf, but convey this information indirectly, referring to the sermon of the clergyman, religious literature. In Christianity, there really is an opinion that excessive, growing into hysteria tears bring suffering to the deceased.
5
At the end of your letter, do not write such terrible phrases as "life goes on", "well, what can we do, we will all be there", etc. These words will not only not comfort your family, but will put you in an extremely bad light. Instead, say that the deceased will always live in the soul of those who loved him, and there were many such people.
