Secular society in any civilized country consists of intelligent well-mannered people whose main virtue is intelligence, honor, dignity, self-control and, finally, courtesy and delicacy. To be a "secular person" in the modern world is fashionable and prestigious. A person who knows secular treatment knows how to keep himself in any society, deserves universal respect and approval.
Instruction manual
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Be courteous. Courtesy is understood, first of all, as general attentiveness and courtesy towards others. Learn to be condescending to people, give way to the elderly, women, children. Avoid using trivial expressions and swear words in your speech. Be friendly, delicate in conversation. But do not talk about anything with excessive passion and ardor. Do not speak a foreign or professional language in a society where they do not understand you. Avoid disrespectful statements regarding someone else's appearance, profession, occupation.
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Be able to patiently listen to the interlocutor, without interrupting him under any circumstances. Keep track of what you say to whom and in what tone. However, remember that excessive politeness is not a virtue, it weighs on the interlocutor, suggests thoughts of your insincerity and pomp. Therefore, out of courtesy, do not sacrifice your needs, do not show excessive compliance.
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Be polite, letting others know that you are well-mannered and familiar with etiquette. Easy politeness helps to get people around. Of course, this is not about bowing low, but about being respectful.
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Follow the decency rules above. Try to avoid a dismissive tone, a proud look, too many explanations and deviations in your speech. Do not whisper in the presence of other people, do not look at the clock, do not read, do not hum to yourself when others speak. In conversation, stick to simple phrases, do not get excited, do not utter laudatory phrases about yourself, your virtues and talents.
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And finally, be yourself, don’t take on a look that doesn’t correspond to your status, and give others only the respect and attention they deserve.
