A very important issue that a woman must decide before marriage is to take her husband’s surname or not. And if in the USSR in most cases this could not even be discussed, now a woman can leave her maiden name if she wishes. But is it worth it?
Typically, brides decide what is worth. There are many reasons to take her husband’s name. The most common is pressure from older relatives and the categorical: "So accepted!". The bride is told that the name of the husband was taken by her mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother, so do not break the tradition. What will people say if the husband and wife have different surnames? In addition, if the child is given the name of the father, then the mother will be “alien” to him. Such conversations, which boil down to the fact that a marriage is made for the sake of stamping in a passport and changing a family name, have a great influence on women and sometimes even force them to change their beautiful name to a very dissonant one. Another, no less common reason lies in fear. The bride is afraid to offend her future husband. In this case, the new surname is a sign of belonging to the husband, proof that the man and woman in marriage have become one. There are brides who, for whatever reason, dream of changing their surname. Some of them were teased by her in childhood, she is simply unpleasant to someone. Some would like to have a more harmonious or even noble name, which is very fashionable in our time. In such cases, a woman, at least, does not lose anything, or maybe gets something she wants, or even fulfills her dream. Sometimes the bride takes her husband’s name because she believes that it will help her to change her character and even her fate. After her wedding, a new life begins for her, and the old one, together with all the failures and problems, remains girlish. A new surname, documents, marital status, signature - all this gives some women hope for a happier life. In the event that a woman marries a foreigner and plans to move to another country afterwards, she can take her husband’s surname to quickly become your own among representatives of a different nationality and easier to adapt to their lives. It is important to remember that the happiness of a family rarely depends on the names of the husband and wife, and a common name does not save either from divorces or from cheating. Therefore, each bride makes her choice, and most importantly, that he is the right one for her future family.
