Sometimes we experience a breakdown for some reason. It seems that the work was not so hard as to get tired, and no one pulled and did not upset. So what could be the matter? Everything is very simple - remember with whom you spoke today at work or at home …
And remember the moment when the forces left you. This is important, because it is during communication with each other that we receive or lose energy, strength and joy of life.
Yes, we are talking about the very energy vampires who sometimes steal our energy, sometimes and imperceptibly. Let’s try to classify them according to common features, in order to make it easier to figure out with the help of which techniques this or that person is trying to “de-energize” us. And put protection against these actions, because we need our energy ourselves, right?
So, types of energy vampires and ways to protect against them.
1. Narcissistic. He loves only himself, thinks only of himself; doesn’t feel when another is feeling bad. How to protect yourself? Do not expect warmth and care from him (her), so as not to be disappointed. If you communicate necessarily (at work), you will have to show that you are useful to him.
2. The victim. This person is forever unhappy and represents his life as the worst of lives. However, it is worth proposing to solve the problem, as he will find one hundred reasons why this will not help him. And he will exhaust the interlocutor with new attempts to complain about a bitter fate. How to protect yourself? To say that if he does not want to seek a solution to his problem, then the conversation needs to be rescheduled for the next time. After several such tricks, the victim will go look for another “vest”.
3. The controller. He knows exactly what you should do and what should not. Where to go and where not to. Who to date
generally understand? He asks what time you will come and is unhappy if the meeting has dragged on. How to protect yourself? It is necessary to feel inner confidence and independence in what you do. And gently nip control attempts.
4. Loudspeaker. Constantly expresses his opinion on any occasion, not allowing anyone to insert a word. Exhausting endless talk. How to protect yourself? Say politely, but directly, that he (she) should be silent, because people need to work. They do not understand hints, because they do not control their speech flow. If this is your loved one - suggest that he should control himself.
5. The prima donna. This person raises any unpleasant trifle that has happened to him to the rank of "universal grief" and thereby seeks profit for himself, infringing you. You feel it, but you can’t do anything - because he is waiting for sympathy. How to protect yourself? Put really important things in the first place and thereby reduce the scale of his "theatricalization". In other words, to put it in its place, distinguishing between the important and the unimportant.
Now take an “inventory” of your acquaintances and categorize them if there are kidnappers of your energy among them. And build relationships according to your rules - take care of your energy.
