From time immemorial, any wedding was preceded by a matchmaking procedure. It was clearly regulated by strict rules and ended with an engagement. Nowadays, few people follow ancient traditions. However, in many families the need for matchmaking is still understood and performed by this ritual, albeit in a somewhat modernized, modified form.
Instruction manual
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The essence of the matchmaking is that in reality it is an offer to a girl or woman of a hand and a heart from a man or a boy. The groom must not only obtain the consent of the bride, but also obtain the approval of her parents for marriage. To obtain permission to marry a chosen one, a young man must send matchmakers to her parents. Their roles are usually played by his parents, godparents, and other immediate family members. Nowadays, the groom must come to the matchmaking himself.
A visit to the beloved parents should take place at a predetermined time. The groom should be beautifully dressed and bring two bouquets: one for the bride, and the second for her mother. The proposal is made for a general conversation, turning to the parents of the chosen one. It is not accepted that the bride herself be present during the conversation, because in his process subtle issues of housing, other material things may be raised.
If the bride’s parents agree to marry her, they should invite the groom and his parents, as well as other matchmakers to visit on a specific date. But it may happen that the girl’s parents ask them to give them time to discuss their marriage proposal. The groom should not express dissatisfaction, he can only patiently wait for the invitation.
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So, if a future marriage is deemed desirable, a second matchmaking visit will take place. In the process of this visit to the groom, the girl herself meets with her parents and matchmakers. Now the proposal is made to her. But not the groom, but his father or another matchmaker. The father or other relative of the bride must confirm his consent by putting the bride’s right hand in the groom’s hand.
After this, the visit ends quickly; it should not be delayed. If for some reason the groom's parents did not participate in the matchmaking, the bride is invited to visit them. She must give a bouquet to her lover's mother.
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If it so happened that the parents live far away and cannot come, you must still observe at least a semblance of tradition: send them photos of the future chosen one or chosen one, respectfully ask for consent to marriage.
The last stage of the matchmaking is the engagement. She is appointed after the wedding was approved by both families. Parents of the bride and groom must be present at the engagement. The wedding is discussed there. Future relatives share expenses. Usually the groom or his family buys rings, a dress and shoes for the bride, and the bride's family gives the young family a dowry - furniture, dishes, bedding, etc.
note
It is believed that you can not get married on Wednesday and Friday - these are fasting days. Also unlucky for matchmaking is considered to be the 13th. Happy dates are 3, 5, 7 and 9.
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