A compliment - a few pleasant words spoken by another person - can be confusing for many. People are embarrassed, do not understand why it is praised. Even if they themselves are proud of their achievement, they are embarrassed to hear confirmation that the case has been evaluated by others. Answering a compliment is often not easy because it is unclear what exactly needs to be said in this case.
Instruction manual
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Few people can sincerely and beautifully make compliments, but even fewer can accept and respond to them. Listen to meritorious words, and let them cheer you up, do not suspect in every flatterer or person who wants something from you. Then the correct answer to the compliment will be much easier and more natural.
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If you have received a compliment, do not ignore it, pretending that it is in the order of things. But do not take it too close to your heart. Excessive gratitude for the pleasant words, as well as complete indifference to them, is not the right reaction. If you have been praised, first smile at the person.
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If a compliment was received as part of a courtesy exchange practiced in a decent society, then to answer it, select a category close to the one in which you yourself have received approval. For example, if the boss praised you for the report, then remember about some of his effective decision in recent years. Make a compliment specifically about professional achievement. If a friend praises your new boots, then, thanking and saying a few words about it, express approval of some details of her toilet.
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Your compliment should be appropriate. The exchange of courtesies should not be too long. Be delicate, because sometimes, even making a compliment, you can be very mistaken and involuntarily hurt a person.
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Often people are embarrassed when they receive compliments, so give the person the opportunity to comfortably respond to your words. Instead of accepting sincere praise for one’s actions, a person begins to justify himself or, at all, confused, will say the opposite. After the compliment, add something else that will allow the person to speak out on this subject without rejecting the compliment. For example, praising a cooked cake on a visit, ask what was its secret or what ingredients were used. Then the hostess will not be confused and will not begin to say that "today he is still unsuccessful, " but will proudly tell about the subtleties.
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Often it’s not necessary to give a compliment. You can simply answer with the words: "Thank you, very nice" or "Thank you for the compliment."
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