Finding themselves in trouble, some people “shout” about it, diligently attract the attention of others. Others close and "drown" alone, taking hostility with any attempt at external intervention. Both can be helped by acting wisely and delicately.
Instruction manual
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Feed the one in need and give what you need. In a state of psychological decline, a person feels vulnerable. Therefore, the good intentions of others to suggest something are perceived negatively. In this state, the unfortunate resembles a grinning puppy, which does not allow him to come to him and does not allow him to free his paw that has fallen into the slot. By inviting a person to the table, you help him to relax. Food and clothing are the simplest things that one needs to feel protected. Keep instructive conversations with you, give what you need instead. You can touch him to the depths of your soul, even if outwardly unhappy does not show it. It is important for a person to know that someone cares about him.
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Tell us something spiritual. While he eats your bread, remember how they fed pigeons with seeds. Tell us how you saved money to buy a gift for mom. On the one hand, this will distract the interlocutor from sad thoughts. On the other hand, his soul will be drawn to you, as to an understanding person.
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Take an interest, as in the near business. Ask this question by chance. Do not try to show that a person has feelings written on his face. If he wants, at that moment he will speak out. Not everyone needs confession to an outsider. Some just need attention. Having parted with you, a friend will feel relieved and will find the strength to fight.
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Listen to the person you are talking to. If a person started talking, do not enter into a conversation. Turn into a "big ear." Who can express the internal state in words, he knows a way out of the situation. Therefore, tips are not useful. Your task is to help your neighbor say that it’s painful. The rest will be superfluous. Silence to help.
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Give a person hope. When the interlocutor’s eyes brighten, say that he will certainly solve the problem. It is important for him to understand that someone believes in him. Even if a specific solution has not matured, he will intuitively feel that he is on the right track. Believe in a person and give him great joy. He will raise his head and find the strength to win.
